We do not mature by becoming more independent of God, but rather by seeing that everything that we have, that we are, that we do depends on Jesus Christ
"Who is the image of the invisible God, the firstborn of every creature: 16For by him were all things created, that are in heaven, and that are in earth, visible and invisible, whether they be thrones, or dominions, or principalities, or powers: all things were created by him, and for him:" (Colossians 1: 15-16)
The more that we know Jesus, the more that we draw from Him, the more that we mature.
For this reason, John would write:
"13I write unto you, fathers, because ye have known him that is from the beginning." (1 John 2: 13)
Fatherhood or maturity in Christ has everything to do with Jesus as everything in our lives.
If you find yourself struggling in some area of your life, if you find that you wish you were doing, having, or being more, the answer is not to put on the shoes, wear the hat, and carry the burden on your own.
The answer is to see Christ, for you and I are in Him:
"1If ye then be risen with Christ, seek those things which are above, where Christ sitteth on the right hand of God. 2Set your affection on things above, not on things on the earth. 3For ye are dead, and your life is hid with Christ in God. 4When Christ, who is our life, shall appear, then shall ye also appear with him in glory." (Colossians 3: 1-4)
"Herein is our love made perfect, that we may have boldness in the day of judgment: because as he is, so are we in this world." (1 John 4: 17)
Look to Jesus, the author and finisher of faith (Hebrews 12: 2) and you will be transformed to be more like him, from glory to glory (2 Corinthians 3: 18)