I have been learning to see Jesus, the beautiful Son of God, as my husband, too.
And yes, we are married to Christ. The Holy Spirit has joined us and made us one with Him.
Yet we will still struggle in our flesh, we will still look at the world as though it can supply whatever we need if we neglect the love that is truly needed in us.
John did not write about "The love of the Husband", or "The Love of the Lover."
He wrote about "the love of the Father".
Jesus came to reveal that name above all other names to us.
"Jesus saith unto her, Touch me not; for I am not yet ascended to my Father: but go to my brethren, and say unto them, I ascend unto my Father, and your Father; and to my God, and your God." (John 20:17)
What is the difference between the Love of the Father, and not the Love of Jesus as Husband, Lover, etc.?
First of all, it was God the Father's love for us that sent His Son, Jesus, to die for us and to live through us:
"9In this was manifested the love of God toward us, because that God sent his only begotten Son into the world, that we might live through him. 10Herein is love, not that we loved God, but that he loved us, and sent his Son to be the propitiation for our sins." (1 John 4:9-10)
And of course:
"For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life." (John 3:16)
It's the Love of the Father which made all other things come to pass. It was God the FATHER's idea to send His Son to die for us, to rise again on our behalf, and to live through us.
We have been adopted, brought into new standing before God!
"For ye have not received the spirit of bondage again to fear; but ye have received the Spirit of adoption, whereby we cry, Abba, Father." (Romans 8:15)
"6And because ye are sons, God hath sent forth the Spirit of his Son into your hearts, crying, Abba, Father. 7Wherefore thou art no more a servant, but a son; and if a son, then an heir of God through Christ." (Galatians 4:6-7)
It's all about the Spirit of Sonship. God sent His Son, so that we could be His sons, too!
"12But as many as received him, to them gave he power to become the sons of God, even to them that believe on his name:" (John 1:12)
Yes, Christ is our brother, and He is also our husband.
Yet the love that delivers us from the love of the world is the love of the FATHER!